There is nothing more complicated than the human mind. A person who admires you for what you are may eventually begin to be jealous of you for what you have achieved. It can also be that a person who is jealous of you might pretend to be your best friend just to wait for the right moment and snatch opportunities from your hand. Spotting a jealous co-worker at your workplace is no easy task. But listed below are 4 effective ways by which you can actually do this.
1.Observe others reactions: Notice reactions of people when you accomplish something or are appreciated for something you have done. You will find that there are always mixed reactions from the people around you. Some people will genuinely appreciate your effort and will congratulate you. However, there will be others who may congratulate you but from their tone of voice, their facial expressions, body language and demeanor you will realize that they are jealous of you. You can easily make out if you notice carefully who the people are who look at you approvingly and who are the ones who turn their faces, though still smiling.
2.Interact with colleagues and subordinates: Interact with those people in your workplace who are yet to achieve what you already have. You will have a fairly good idea of who are ambitious and are waiting for something big but are yet to achieve them. So, whenever you are appreciated or receive an appraisal, go and talk to these people who have not yet made it. You will easily make out the jealous ones among them from the way they talk, unless they are trained deception experts.
3.Remember those who don’t help you: Make a mental note of the people who avoid helping you when you ask for it. Some people are inherently helpful, while some help out people because they expect something in return. There are also people who help those with whom they want to build friendship or rapport for the sake of their own career development. But when they feel jealous towards someone the general tendency becomes not to help out that person because they think that by not helping them they will restrict their progress.
4.Find out about those who pass unsolicited comments: Find out those people who pass unsolicited comments directed towards you. Passing comments and remarks are a normal human tendency but there are people who pass them even when they are not needed. Either these people are suffering from superiority complex or are very jealous of you and cannot rest without venting out their suppressed emotions.
When you know who the people are who are jealous of you, you can exercise more care in dealing with them and not let them have an opportunity to pull you down in any way.