They say that marriages are made in heaven. Well, that’s debatable! But even if we were to believe that, maintaining those marriages and making them successful is left to mere mortals on Earth. While some couples manage to handle their marriages well, there are those who can’t let a single day pass without fighting, arguing, sulking or cribbing.A healthy marriage is one where both people involved are happy individually, as well as in each other’s companionship. If that’s not happening, then chances are that the marriage and the relationship are going off-track. Listed here are a few signs of an unhealthy marriage.
1.Infidelity: One of you, or both of you have started cheating on the other person. If you or your partner is finding better comfort in extra-marital affairs, then that’s the biggest and most obvious signal that you are no longer interested in your spouse’s company.
2.Too Many Differences: While having a difference in opinions is normal in most relationships, having too many of them can bring in some serious troubles, especially when neither of you is ready to accept the other person’s views even for the sake of coming to a consensus or some mutually comfortable conclusion. This could mean too many arguments and fights, which eventually kill the love and harmony in the marriage.
3.Unequal Efforts: You usually end up listening to your dominating husband and are usually the one making most compromises and sacrifices. Or he ends up saying a yes to all your thoughts and opinions on kids and family matters. This kind of a situation means that one of you is making more sacrifices than the other, and that person is the one putting in all the efforts to make the marriage work, while the other one isn’t. This imbalance of efforts, adjustments and compromises can lead to a clash, and also kills the individual freedom and happiness of the person making more sacrifices.
4.No Communication: Have you simply stopped talking to each other? Are your conversations only limited to who is paying the bill or who is picking up the kids from school? When you stop sharing the most important details of your life with your partner, or when you feel disinterested in talking about anything related to your life with your spouse, then it’s a clear sign of an unhealthy marriage. It simply means that you no longer take interest in each other and are hardly bothered about each other’s daily affairs or opinions, thoughts and emotions.
5.Unhealthy Similarities: You’re a spendthrift and so is he. You don’t care about regular income and he too doesn’t. One day, both of you will find yourself broke and will come face to face with tough times and misery. And that’s when none of you will have a clue to sorting out the situation and will only end up blaming each other. Needless to say, that’ll be too bad. Healthy marriages are ones where partners know how to control each other’s weaknesses and where they can work as a team and take charge of their life together. If you are both individually on your path to getting doomed, the relationship won’t stay afloat either.
If you can identify with some of these signs, then start looking for solutions and ways to get your marriage back on track. While some people manage to make things work for them by repairing the damage, there are others who prefer to walk out of an unhealthy relationship. The choice is yours, but never should you do something that you regret later. So make your choices wisely.
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