Manners to end gracefully in a relationship

 

There are certain relationships that are for a lifetime like wit your siblings and parents where the bonds are forever.Other relationships like a marriage or a love affair are however a little more less permanent and are susceptible to breakups. Any relationship be it with your parents, your partner, your children, a colleague, a neighbor or a friend is quite complex and requires a lot of effort to sustain. There is no easy way to end a relationship, especially after a lot of work has gone into it. But there are a lot of benefits in ending a relationship gracefully. It takes away a lot of ill feelings and there is one less person to hate in the world. You can also end up being good friends. Here are a few ways to end your relationship gracefully.

Do not end it abruptly

Do not end a relationship abruptly. There can be signs that are around for a long time and there are chances that you alone can see it or the other person is trying their best to ignore it. Take your time to talk, explain why and how long you have been feeling this way. Do not wake up one day and let the other person know that you are no longer interested in the relationship. It could be very painful.

Let the other person be the first to know

If you want to end a relationship, it only makes sense that you tell the person you are in a relationship with first. This can irrevocably damage any future chances of reconciliation and the ending too can turn out to be pretty traumatic for everyone involved.

Take the blame

Even when you feel that the other person was the cause for the relationship to turn sour, it helps sometimes to take the blame. Tell him that it is you who is not ready to stay in this relationship and that you need to spend time on yourself and need to stay by yourself for a while.

Spend time with him if he requests it

If he is taking it badly and needs someone to be with after, be there for him as a friend. If he is jumping into a relationship soon after the breakup, do not be judgmental or critical. You can even help him in finding the right person.

Keep others out of it

Do not bring in anyone else to deal with your breakup. Like the adult you are, take responsibility for the situation and deal with it yourself. Do not play the blame game but explain carefully as to what went wrong and why you took the decision.

There is no easy way out of a relationship unless it is by mutual consent. But if you have to initiate the breakup it is always better to end it gracefully to prevent any future inconveniences.