1.Do not make a complaint sound like one
If you have a complaint against your husband, phrase it in a way that it does not sound like a complaint. You can make it sound like a request instead or pique his curiosity by beginning to do it yourself. If he is not painting the walls as you requested him to do, quit complaining and ask him if he can do it for you or pick up the bucket and start doing it. He will soon listen to the non verbal signals you are sending him.
2.Pick out the right time
Since you get to spend a lot of time with him, you would know when you can tell him what. If mornings are a good time to talk to him, then do it. Or if he is not a morning person and is at his most relaxed when he hits the bed, start talking to him then. The important thing is to pick the right time.
3.Do not go on and on
Do not pounce on him with whatever you have to say as soon as he gets back home. And once you get started, do not go on and on. He is either going to get irritated or get bored. His concentration levels are also definitely going to waver. Break whatever you have to say into precise chunks. The smaller it is the more effective his listening skills would be. Instead of going on and on, you can be succinct and put it in a few choice words.
If nothing works and he does not ever listen to you, then it calls for some manipulation on your part. Give him a massage or make him his favorite food and when he is enjoying himself, start talking. Even if he does not like it, he is bound to listen to you at least owing to the guilt factor.
5.Make a big scene
Sometimes nothing helps like melodrama. If you have been talking to him for hours or days and it has no effect on him, it is time you went for a little drama. You can either shout so he’d be forced to hear you out or break a few things so he’d know that you actually mean business.