There is one thing that can never be disputed by any parent around the world, no matter the number of kids they have; having a kid is definitely a life altering experience for anyone. When a kid enters into your life, your life is changes completely. There is so much pressure on you as you are responsible in a large way as to how the kid turns out later in life. Not only do you have to set a good example for the kid to follow, you should also teach your kid to do the right thing and that is not always easy. A child tends to get angry for a lot of reasons. Kids get angry when they are disciplined, when they are denied something or when they are asked to do something they do not want to do. Tantrums are never cute and should be nipped at an early stage both for your good and the child’s development. Here are a few ways to manage your child’s anger.
1.Reason with the child: Instead of getting angry and ending up with a high decibel shouting match with the child, you can try reasoning. Reasoning helps no matter how old your child is. Instead of saying some very stupid things when you are angry and regretting it later, you can take a few minutes off and reason with your kid and let the child know that anger is bad and it is not helping the kid’s cause in anyway.
2.Ignore the child for a while: If you had noticed, the kid’s tantrums will increase the more attention it gets. If you ignore the kid for a while, the tantrums will automatically subside and the child will no longer be angry but will come to you seeking your forgiveness or understanding. Ignore the anger and tantrums and not the kid as a whole as that can be dangerous.
3.Set down strict rules: Set down strict rules in the house that anger and bad behavior will not be tolerated. Use constructive punishments with the child from a young age and let it be known that you are the boss and that you will not tolerate such behavior in the house. It is one thing to be friends with your kids, but another to condone such behavior. Try to maintain a healthy balance between being friend to your kid and being a rule enforcer.
4.Try and divert the child’s attention: Kids have very short attention spans. You can use this to your advantage by diverting their attention from the thing that is irritating them and causing them anger. If the kid is angry because he or she could not get something they wanted, you can always divert their attention to something more interesting and they will soon forget about it.
5.Set a good example: This is the most important thing. Before you set out to manage your child’s anger you should learn to manage yours. The child learns a lot from you and only when you make the child understand that anger does not solve anything and live to prove it can anger in a child be managed effectively.
Do not match anger with anger when dealing with an angry kid. You need a lot of patience, love and understanding to handle an angry child. How you manage your child’s anger at an early stage will help in shaping your kid’s attitude as an adult.