Parenting in the time of COVID-19


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The COVID-19 coronavirus has upended family life around the world, closing schools, forcing parents to work remotely and cutting people off from their friends and family.

The so-called new normal is a lot to take in for everyone, but even more so for parents, carers and the children that depend on them.

With many families around the world forced to stay at home, the World Health Organization (WHO) has published six one-page tips for parents, covering everything from creating a new routine to managing stress and talking about the COVID-19 pandemic.

1. Spend some quality time together

First up is setting aside some time to spend with each of your children and asking them what they would like to do. The suggestions include reading a book, looking at pictures, going for a walk, dancing, doing a chore together, playing games or helping them study.

2. Keep it positive

Using positive language and praising your child or teenager for something they have done well is the second tip. This will help reassure them that you notice what they’re doing and care about it.

The WHO also advises keeping it real when it comes to your expectations – asking yourself, what’s actually achievable?

“It is very hard for a child to keep quiet inside for a whole day...But maybe they can keep quiet for 15 minutes while you are on a call.”

3. Have some structure

Having a consistent daily routine will help shape your day. This might mean making a schedule that has time for structured activities, as well as free time to help children feel more secure. They may want to join in and help plan the day – like making a school timetable.

Daily exercise should play a role, too – to lower everyone’s stress levels and help dispense some of that pent-up energy. In the UK, well-known personal trainer Joe Wicks is streaming live exercise sessions for children while schools are closed.

4. Manage acting out

The WHO recommends three steps for dealing with bad behaviour. First, if you can catch it early, redirect or distract by suggesting you go outside or for a walk. If that doesn’t work, take a 10-second pause before you respond, breathe in and out slowly five times, and then try to respond in a calmer way.

The final recommendation is to instill consequences.

“Give your child a choice to follow your instruction before giving them the consequence,” the WHO says. “Once the consequence is over, give your child a chance to do something good, and praise them for it.”

5. Take steps to manage stress

Managing stress is a big one for families stuck at home. Taking time for yourself - even if it’s just a five-minute cup of tea, meditation or exercise - can help.

“Be open and listen to your children,” the WHO says. “Your children will look to you for support and reassurance. Accept how they feel and give them comfort.”

6. Talk openly about the virus

The final tip relates to mitigating the anxiety that children may be feeling about the pandemic. We’re all exposed to so much news and constant updates via social media that it can be hard to avoid thinking about COVID-19 even for a few minutes.

Here, the WHO advocates a transparent approach - talking to your children openly about what’s going on and admitting when you don't have all the answers. Desk: Asianet Online