Has your period left you feeling like a bit of a hot mess? This time, we don’t mean emotionally. We mean the stained underwear and blood smear on your thighs kind of a mess. The messiness that has many asking questions like, “I feel so dirty when I have my period. What can I do to help myself stay clean?”
Menstruation Makes a Mess but Is Not Dirty
There is a very subtle but important distinction here:
It may make a big mess but there is nothing inherently “dirty” about your menstruation. Remember why you bleed every month. You bleed because you didn’t get pregnant. Your normal menstrual cycle is all about your fertility.
Many cultures and religions have attached negative attitudes to menstruation giving the impression that a menstruating woman is dirty. Medically this is just not true.
Your Vagina Is Self-Cleaning
Some women feel that they need to clean out the menstrual blood from their vaginas. They do this by using a douche. This is where the concept of feeling “dirty” can actually hurt you.
Douching comes from the French word meaning “to wash” or to “shower.” When you douche you are spraying water or another solution into your vagina to rinse it out and make it “clean.” The problem is, your vagina is not dirty.
The way your vagina stays healthy is by maintaining a certain environmental balance or pH. Think of it like finding the optimal temperature in your shower, not too hot not too cold. For the vagina, it needs to be more acidic than basic. Your vagina has a population of normal bacteria that along with hormones help to maintain a normal pH balanced healthy vagina.
Douching can also increase your risk of more serious infections like a pelvic inflammatory disease which can affect your fertility. Sure, you might feel fresh and have a perfumed scent after douching with a feminine wash but that won't last for very long and likely will cause you significant problems with your vagina. Bottom line, when it comes to the mess of your period, leave your vagina alone. It can and will take care of itself.
Your Vulva Is Not Self-Cleaning
The blood smeared on your vulva (the outside of your vagina) and on your inner thighs is a different story.
Again, you may be tempted to use a special feminine hygiene product. A perfumed wash or pre-packed wipe promising to leave you fresh and clean.
You could use these on your thighs but be careful using perfumed products on your vulva. Again, the fresh and clean feeling will be temporary and you run the risk of irritating the sensitive tissue of your vulva.
These scented products could cause a rash or inflammation called vulvitis that can cause itching or burning and even pain with sex. The best choice for cleaning your vulva is plain old water. If you really feel like you need to add something to the water try a very gentle unscented soap.
What about your underwear, clothes, and bedsheets? To remove menstrual blood stains, follow the same advice for removing regular bloodstains from your clothing. Rinse the items under cold running water to remove most of the stain. Then treat with a little soap.